Forget About Formalities, Speak Your Mind, and Strive For Happiness

At that time, I constantly reminded myself that if I can choose my own personality, I wanted my personality to resemble theirs. If Hong Kong is a place that encourages this form of personalities and attitudes, one day I would want to stay and live in Hong Kong.

Since I was a child, I have always strongly equated Hong Kong with families and voices of welcome. Growing up in the UK, my family and I only went back to Hong Kong once every three years. This made it difficult to interact and to keep updated with my huge extended family back in Hong Kong. With this three year gap, the young me always worried whether they would still like me, or whether I could still interact with them. For this exact reason, the night before flying back to Hong Kong is always something that keeps me awake at night. However, every-time when I stepped out of the plane after landing and smelled that distinct Hong Kong scent, I would be welcomed joyously with all my cousins, aunts and uncles, and my grandparents with open arms and surrounded by their warm hugs. This bond with my family, this feeling of warmth, is what makes Hong Kong by far my favourite place to spend my summer.

I am fortunate to be surrounded by over 20 loving and fun cousins who would take me everywhere. From the sweltering outdoor heat to the freezing shopping malls blasted with air-con. From all kinds of food stalls and treats to all kinds of entertainment and gadgets.

It isn't only the aisles of Asian snacks and Gundam models that made me happy (although they did contribute), but the fact that my cousins are so willing to communicate and to interact with me despite having only known me very briefly every summer in their lives.

As a shy kid, and also coming from a minority background, this sort of interactions are usually buried under my unwillingness to converse with other people. In Hong Kong, my family are open-minded, spunky and relentlessly engaging. It is this positive and friendly atmosphere that allowed me to opened up from my timidness during my youth.

“Forget about formalities”, “speak your mind”, and “strive for happiness“ are the mottos I would use to describe the epitome of my uncles’ way of living. It didn’t matter if I couldn’t speak Cantonese very well. It didn’t matter that I wasn’t knowledgeable in their culture. Every opportunity with them was an opportunity to learn, to laugh together, and ultimately to enjoy every moment I still had left before I flew back to the UK.

At that time, I constantly reminded myself that if I can choose my own personality, I wanted my personality to resemble theirs. If Hong Kong is a place that encourages this form of personalities and attitudes, one day I would want to stay and live in Hong Kong.

As a grown-up, I am still seeking an opportunity to stay in Hong Kong. Perhaps the reason now for residing in Hong Kong has a sprinkle of wanting to experience the working life there. But, my desire to reduce that ten thousand kilometers distance between my extended family and me is still very strongly embedded in me owing to our fond memories together.

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